The word "love" gets thrown around so much on a day-to-day basis, it's a wonder the letters haven't broken off and gotten lost forever. Or--have they? How often do you say you "love" something as silly as a pair of shoes or an ice cream flavor?
This question is plaguing me lately and naturally, I can relate it to the book we are currently reading. Because he is autistic, Christopher can't really express emotions the way we do. The first time I read this book(Summer of 2006 I believe) I pondered it for hours afterward, desperate to find another word to replace the one that should remain sacred. LOVE. What if I could never say it again--worse,what if I could never show it. Would I know what it was? After many brain-bleeding hours, I came up with....exactly nothing. It has never been far from my thoughts since then.
So, your challenge for this week, poppets, is to dig deep inside yourself and think about what it is that you really love. In order to do that, I think it would be beneficial to start out with a working definition of what love is. How would you define it? What characteristics would be a good representation of it? And then, at long last, ask yourself..."What do I love?"
Good luck;,hopefully you will do better than I did!
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LOVE –Webster’s defines love as being an unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another; I think love has many meanings, - like with prefixes. IN love where- you love someone flaws and all in and out with the ability to match up your heart with theirs, and take the good with the bad and have the patience to accept it, with the understanding to realize you cannot change them, and be totally alright with it. There’s also MAKING love- where you physically show your idolatry (excessive devotion for some person) towards a person with like your body, and then you fornicate. Moving on there’s also just love – which I think is an extreme feeling where you just can’t DEFINE how you feel, it has you speechless, you can’t imagine your life without this person- (mom, dad, best friend, ect.) I would say that the difference is that being in love has more to do with feelings and chemistry. It is a state of being, a noun. Loving someone is a verb, an action. It has to do with behavior. Practically, this means that being in love has more to do with what you are getting from the other person. It has to do with your needs and your feelings. It can be pretty selfish. It is great while it lasts, but eventually it burns itself out (which I have come to realize) . When you (or your partner) try to grasp what you need and want, it will inevitably ELUDE (vocab word) your grasp. If your partner is trying to take what he/she needs, you will feel put upon and vise versa. True love is unselfish. It wants to give more than it gets which is why it equals out, you have someone scratch your back and, when you’re done they scratch yours... It has to do with the other person's needs and feelings. If two people truly love each other, and each is trying to give more than it gets, then both parties are well cared for and their needs are met. For me, the greatest example of this is that for four years, my ex- boyfriend has been there for me in my time of need, and in return I didn’t take it for granted. And as a very wise person once told me, a relationship is an even split, 60/40 straight down the middle. Loving someone means you care deeply about their well being, and genuinely love who they are as a person. Being In-love means that you care for them deeply and your ONLY concern is to make them happy. They are your number 1 priority in life, you would do anything and everything for them, and you wish to be as close as possible to them for the rest of your life. There will always be a time when one of you is sick or unable and the other has to carry the load. True love never keeps score. – there is also, a love that can be for material objects, like I LOVE those converses, which is only a needing love, they can’t do anything for you, but make you look stylish, you have to buy that kinda love, like a prostitutes’ love, only bought, never real. – I liked this blog, very muchooo, & I think I hit 550. I don’t know for sure, if not it doesn’t matter I’m not graduating anyways, I only do these for fun.
ReplyDeletelove to me is the unavoideble drive to care for someone with all of your mind being inable to lie to this person no matter how hard you try. wanting to see them every momemt of your day so with that said the person i truly love is my grandfather ernest sandoz hes taughgt me so much through my life and unfortunatly he might not be around much longer
ReplyDeleteLove... Love is goning to be very hard to write about! I don't think I have ever written about it and I dont think I have ever had to define Love to anyone but myself.
ReplyDeleteBut theres a first time for everything right? So here it goes.
Love is that feeling you get when you care alot about someone, or something!
Love is that feeling that can't be mistaken by any other! It’s a emotion that some times cant be described! Love is incredible! Love is when you could have the worst day ever and her that one persons voice that turns your day around!
I thought love was something everyone said, and everyone felt until I started reading this book!
It’s kind of sad when I think about it! You know, loving someone but they can’t feel your love or tell you it back. Some times just someone I love telling me that they love me is enough to make me happy when I am upset.
Loving someone means you will be there, always no matter how hard it is or how tough it gets.
It means you honest with them and that you look out for there best interests, and some times put your feelings aside just to make them happy!
Loving someone means that your there friend. Its when some times you care about that person more then you care about yourself.
There is unconditional love. You know the love that seems like only animals can have! My dog loves me no matter how mad, upset, or even if I look a mess, she still loves me.
She will love me if I get fat, she will love me even if all my hair falls out. But some people don’t have unconditional love for people, so that’s why I think that animals are the only one. I know that sounds silly! Love is when you love some ones flaws. Love is when you care so much it kind of hurts! Love is when you trust someone so much, that you give them your heart even though you know that they could crush it with just the clench of a fist! Love is incredible!
Its when you know that they are there. Its that call the makes you smile.
Its, not only incredible, its incredibly hard to describe!
Now that I thought about love, probably hard enough to get a headache I will tell you what it is that I love. I love a lot of people… And thing.
I know you think I am crazy when I say I love things but I really do, like I love animals. They love you back, and unconditionally! Also I love my race boat! I really so! I would cry if something happened to it! I am always thinking about it! I talk to it while I am racing! I love my race boat!
I love my Uncle Frank! He is one of the few people I know that has unconditional love! He has showed me, and taught me so much, I am so thankful to have him in my life. He was always there when no one else was. He was there at 2am when I was getting kicked out of my house and no one else cared. Uncle Frank has and I have a feeling that he will always believe in me. Even when every one gave up on me, he still had faith! He is one of my bestfriend, he is kinda like a father to me. I tell him pretty much everything. I love him! I love my parents even though we don’t have the best relationship, they are still my parents and I love them. I love my family period I guess, even though they are crazy and aren’t always there, I still love them. I love my grandma still, even though she pasted away.
I love my friends! I am gonna stop here cause I have had enough love for one night Lol.
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For me when you really love someone, is when you put their happiness before yours, when you don't act selfish towards them, you want the best for them and if for some reason they do something bad to you, your feelings won't change, because you love them unconditionally. Love means caring for that person, and being with them in their good and bad times, understanding their problems, answering their calls at 4:00 am when they have a problem. When you love someone you miss them terribly when you don't have them near you, time seems shorter when you are with that person because you are focusing just on them, that you forget about everything else. There are different types of love, because the love that you have for your mother is not the same that the love you have for your boyfriend, or for your friends. In English is very difficult for me to express what I am trying to say because in Spanish we have to different words for when you love a boyfriend/husband and when you "love" a friend or a member of a family, and I know it sounds weird, but in English there is just the word LOVE. When you say that you "love" a pair of shoes, you really are saying that you REALLY REALLY like those shoes, but you don't love them because they are not people or animals, they are just things. Some people have a different idea of love, because they choose money (that is a thing), over people (that have feelings) and they choose to love money, and that is their only priority in life. Loving someone is showing them that you love them with actions, kisses, hugs and making them feel good in many more ways. You don't put a limit on your love, you can't set your mind to a limit, love is a feeling that you can't control. Love is looking past imperfections in your partner and seeing the beautiful person inside, love can't be defined because some people have different opinions. In my situation love brings me happiness but sadness sometimes, but it really makes me happy, is a great feeling. I prefer to love a person and lose them even though is going to hurt, than to not love at all, that experience is indescribable. You know that you really loved someone, because when you lose that person you cry "a river", you think about all your memories together, you are depressed for some time, you miss them, you want them back and most importantly you will do whatever it takes to get back with that person. When you love someone you put your pride aside, and you don't let anything to get on your way. When you love someone you have arguments with that person because that is a bad way to show that you really care, you get jealous when somebody is trying to take them away from you. What I really love in life at this moment is my mom, my dad, and my boyfriend. They are at this point the most important persons that I have, and I cannot imagine my life without one of them. They love me too, and that is why I do everything that is in my hands to make them happy, and I think about each one of them before I make a decision. I put myself in 4th place, but that doesn't mean that I don't love myself, because I sure do, is just that I have this habit of putting these three people before me and anyone else. I love them sincerely with my heart and soul, and if I wanted to define love in just three words I would say: MOM, DAD, BOYFRIEND.
ReplyDeleteLove-a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. That is the exact definition of love. I totally agree with this. Now I say “I love’ to a whole lot of things, no matter what it may be. I say “I love you” to some of my friends that are girls most of the time, because, not that I have deep feelings for them, just because I care a lot about them and I treat them all with respect. So yeah, you can call me a gentleman. They can sometimes say “I love you” to me and most of my other guy friends. It’s because we’re all friends and we’re always there for each other. The same thing goes with my family and how we treat each other. Now I’m not going to lie, my family pisses me off and annoys me most of the time, but regardless of all the drama and hard time that we go through, we’re still a family, and we love and support each other no matter what. There are times when I think that my parents don’t care or understand me at all, maybe because I’m the youngest and the only boy. Or that they just want to get on my nerves and get on my bad side. But however they may act, and sometimes I may not realize it; they love me to death and would do mostly anything for me. They sometimes don’t have a lot of money like most other families, but they try their best to make us happy and make sure we live a good, happy, healthy life. Now I just came back from Florida two days ago, and the whole cost of the trip was around $1,500. That money could’ve gone to anything else important like a car, house, furniture, a nice TV, but it went to me because they said that I deserved it. And I’m not trying to sound cocky or anything, but heck yeah I did. I’m actually doing something I love with the band, staying out of trouble, doing better in school than I ever did. I don’t have a big family, but I think it’s safe to say that I do love my parents, regardless of what happens or what is said, I do love them and don’t know what. They’re always helping me and encouraging me to do better, and helping me with my problems if I have any. Another thing I can say that I love is music. Music is MY LIFE. I honestly could not live without it. Just the way things sound and the beats / percussion, that’s what I love about it. I’m really interested in that kind of stuff and hope to have a career with it sometime in the near future. This world would be really dead and depressed if there was no music. Music’s practically everywhere and we may not notice it. I’m a fan on Facebook of “I hate immature girls with a new boyfriend every week say “I love you”. I totally agree with this because there are a lot of girls that are like this, and I think I may know some too. I think that a person, who is always there for you, will do anything, and you’ve been good friends for a long, decent amount of time, then maybe you can say that you love that person. Other than that, most girls are just insecure and need a guy to make them happy, and that’s dumb. So the most important things in life that we know we CANNOT live without is what we love.
ReplyDeleteThe word love can have a selection of related but dissimilar meanings in different contexts because you can love someone but you also can be In love with someone which both are two different things. In the dictionary it says the definition of love is A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness but I believe the definition for love is a feeling of warm personal attachment as for a parent, child, or friend. I think there are different types of love because the love you have for your family is different from the love you have for friends and I think you have more love for your family then your friends because your around them more and were raised around them as for the love you have for friends is not as strong as the love you have for your family. What I love the most would have to be my mom and my sisters because we always look after each other and no matter how much we get on each others nerves we still look out for each other and while we may pick with each other we don’t let no one else mess with any of us.
ReplyDeleteDo girls love me? Yes. Do I love lacrosse? Yes. Do girls love me because I love lacrosse? No. Love is a strong and powerful word or to some it could be a word that means nothing but just has to be said. I usually use love to say, I love lacrosse or I love that band or even I love that kind of food. Love is used every day no matter what. I don’t think one person couldn’t go through the day without saying love. I don’t think it could be done. I lost already because I tell my parents I love them as soon as I get up to start my day. Love to me is that feeling inside myself when it comes at one moment and then goes away when it’s gone. I couldn’t tell you my definition for it because I hardly even know it. But I think before everyone goes to a better place than life that they will find what the meaning for love is because before you go, you think about your past and think about the people or things that you have seen or heard and might find out that that’s what you loved in your life time.
ReplyDeleteWith the book we are readying now, I think about Christopher and how the book is written and try to image what my sister is thinking about everyday she gets up. Knowing that she can’t talk every morning and what goes through her mind, I would do anything to find out. Just to see what she thinks about me or the family, mom, dad and her life and to see if she loves me, not because I’m her brother but for the things I have done for her and the time, love and energy I have put forth to show her that I care and that I love her.
The thing I love is my life. How I can get up every day and do the things I want to do, knowing that someone out there loves me, being able to express my feelings for things and for people. Being able to huge my mother, play lacrosse, football and have a great times on the weekends. I love life and no matter what life troughs at me I’m ready for everything, I might not be ready for it that second but I will find a way to make it work.
What is love? The dictionary describes love as “a strong positive emotion of regard and affection”. I say describes because I believe that there isn’t just one single definition for love. Depending on the person, their personality, their characteristics, and even their surroundings, love can mean, and be expressed, in many different ways. On the contrary there are even those who don’t believe in love; one would call that psychotic for the reason being that, on a personal opinion of course, love is what makes life worth living.
ReplyDeleteEveryday the word love is taken for granted. Many times people say “love” when they mean to say “like”. For example, “I love that shirt”, in my personal opinion clothes are a silly thing to “love”. In addition to taking it for granted, many people say it when they don’t mean it to get them out of bad situations or just to make someone feel better. Some people believe that “I love you” are three magical words that can get them out of trouble, or an argument. For example, if a couple was fighting because one of them cheated, the cheater can say “but I love you”. Obviously if she/he loved the other person they wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. The feeling of love is simple, for it focuses all attention on what is being loved.
There are many different kinds of love. There is love for an object, love for an event, love for a family member, love for a friend, love for a husband/wife, and the list goes on and on. This is a perfect example if how love can not be defined one way. The way one loves their husband/wife greatly differs from the way one loves soccer, for example.
As my mind matures, my view on the world changes, as does my view on love. Pure love is simple, but the love one thinks they feel is complicated. That is how you can tell the difference between real love and fake, also known as lust. On a love scale, for instance, from one to ten, love ranges from five to ten while lust is one through five. To get to love there is a process. First, you like it, then you lust it, then you love it.
The feeling of love can not be obtained without desire. Desire is what, truly, makes the world go round. Desire is the ability to motivate oneself in doing anything and everything. You must have the desire to love in order to reach nirvana.
Love to me is extremely important. Without it life would be meaningless. One thing in my life that I love a lot is soccer. To some people it may sound silly, but this sport, to me, has meaning beyond compare. When I am out on the field all else escapes me. Doing tricks with the ball makes me feel like I can get through anyone and past anything. Running down the field, I never get tired for I feel like the longer I run, the less I have to worry about. Soccer is my escape from any stress or issues I have in my life. This sport grants me complete happiness. It may sound silly but even when I think about soccer a smile comes to my face. The feeling I get when I am playing is hard to describe. I love it.
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ReplyDeleteLove is a strong and deep word that you shouldn't use to often be. Some girls are too good for you supposedly and they’ll treat you like shit if you do everything right, and that doesn’t making one bit of sense. Girls are just whores, sluts, and skanks and there are only be a handful that is good enough for you. Its BS how everyone its categorized these days. In general it’s hard to express love through a text or a phone call. You have to show it, you can’t just say it. Love is a word like any other word and you can say it and write it but do you really mean it. That’s up to you for you to decide. Love to me is just another trick in the book that girls use to fuck people over on a daily basis, it sucks, and it’s hard to tell when it comes from the true meaning. Love in my option is hard to come across, it’s hard to find a genuine person as a matter of fact because everyone is so fake, and that’s bullshit. Everyone could be different and a better person but he or she just doesn’t try.
ReplyDeleteWow this is a blog that requires some thinking…According to Wikipedia love is any of a number of emotions related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. But not everyone thinks that these days and they say that they love the dumbest things like sneakers or their Xbox 360. Everyone has their own definition on “love” and if you ask me what love is I think it’s a strong feeling for someone. I honestly only love a couple of things, them being my family, my girlfriend and happiness. I think that love is thrown out there way too easy these days and a lot of people don’t even know what love is. For example, I hear kids all the time saying they love their boyfriend/girlfriend and how they don’t want to be with anyone else for the rest of their life and you find out that they have only been together for about a week and the next thing you know their breaking up the next week. I hear little kids saying they love someone more then I hear grownups saying it and the grownups are the ones that actually know what love is. That’s the thing though; there really isn’t a single definition of love because everyone’s is different. Like when people say “It was like love at first sight” yeah that shit is definitely untrue because how the hell are you going to love someone you haven’t said two words to? That’s just it you can’t love someone that you just met because you know nothing about them. People love way too much and I think that they just say they love someone because they never got affection and love when they were younger so they need love and affection now so they just throw it around like it’s a damn football in an NFL game. I honestly can say that I love my whole family except for one person and it’s because she hasn’t been here for me my whole life and she doesn’t show she loves me so why should I show her that I love her? That person that I don’t love or care for is my mom. My mom has abused me and left my life too many times to have me love her. She is the most selfish person I’ve ever met and that won’t change because what she has done can’t be made up for because she has hurt me physically and emotionally. I mean of course I have to love her because she gave me life and gave birth to me but other than that I honestly don’t love her. I’ve went most of my life without her so you can say that I don’t love her. I love my dad the absolute most because me and him have had a special bond since I was born and everything that he did I did with him. I love my girlfriend because since the day I met her I knew that she honestly was the one. I was able to be myself around her, not care what anyone thought, and best of all she just brings out the best in me in every way. I honestly can say that I can’t live without her so that’s what tells me that I really do love her because how can you live without someone you love? The answer is that you can’t. It’s possible to love someone or something that doesn’t love you back but that’s ok. Just because I love Rachel doesn’t mean she loves me back (even though she does) and id be perfectly fine with that because everyone has their own feeling of love and everyone considers it differently. Thank you Ms. Bunje for letting me do this over again..I should’ve never switched my iphone with my sister..but I get her upgrade in July lol.
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